Disclosure: I got this product as part of an advertorial.
When I read the advertisement to review this book, I well and truly had my Psychology hat on and I decided to give this book a read purely on that basis - because I thought the psychology of it all was very interesting. It was only as I read further into this brilliantly succinct book that I realised a lot of it rang true a lot closer to Rach with her regular, everyday hat on.
When I started to read the book I'd just broken up with my previous boyfriend, and I realised as I read that a lot of the stories in the book were very similar to things I'd gone through myself. It was eye-opening to realise that a lot of the things I'd blamed myself for weren't actually my fault at all. This book gave me courage, and it gave me hope.
Now, I'm not going to get all personal in the post, because as far as I'm concerned I've well and truly moved on from that chapter in my life and I now have the most wonderful, doting boyfriend a girl could possibly ask for. With that in mind, I hope that after reading this post, if you're in a bad place in your relationship, go and give this book a read because it just might open your eyes like it did mine.
What's the book about? This short, informative book is split into two main sections:
Part 1 is all about recognising an emotional abuser's "tricks of the trade" and is littered with personal anecdotes which really helps to demonstrate the sort of situations these "tricks" can be used in. The main problem with sufferers of emotional abuse, is that they don't know it's happening. I certainly didn't. In most cases the abuser has worn down the self-esteem of the abused to the point where they blame everything on themselves. It's really useful when you're reading through each trick to realise that you're not alone and others have gone through it too.
Part 2 of Emotional Assault covers the painful decision of whether to let go or not and the aftermath of an emotionally abusive relationship and assures readers that things do get better with time. And I can personally assure you too, that it does get better. I spent a wonderful 6 months rebuilding my self-esteem, confidence and learning to do things for myself and then I found the one.
The thing I like the most about this read is that it's realistic. Lisa accepts that sometimes you can be as much a part of the problem as you are the solution. She also includes that once the decision to break free is made, it's not going to be easy. It's hard, you will doubt yourself, but if you are strong you will get through it.
My one criticism is that the book is geared towards men being the abusers, I understand that this is a very personalised account of emotional assault, but I think it needs to be made clear that, while it is less common, abuse can come from women too.
If you're currently in an abusive relationship, suspect you might be, or have been in one in the past, or even if you know someone who is going through these sorts of problems at the moment, then I highly recommend this book. You can purchase it on Amazon for your Kindle for just £2.50
If you are going through something like this and need immediate support please talk to someone you trust, or visit Women's Aid.
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