Friday, 30 May 2014

An Open Letter to Bloggers

I hate that I'm writing this post, but I feel like I have to get it off my chest. It's a little ridiculous that this has to be said, especially because it's something I'm constantly saying to the 5 year old children in my class...

Over the last few weeks I've sat and watched from my own little blogging corner and I've noticed something that's made me kind of sad about the blogging world. It's something I didn't realise was happening, until it started to happen more and more often. Tell me, ladies and gents, when did we all stop being nice to each other??

I've witnessed people being bullied, verbally attacked, discredited, reported and had their name dragged through the mud - to name just a few of the things that have been going on - and all are completely unnecessary and unavoidable. When I started blogging a few years ago I was overwhelmed by the kindness and support that I felt was literally pouring out from the blogosphere in buckets. When did that stop happening? When did blogging get so bitchy? When did people start thinking they own things that they don't, and when did people start thinking it was okay to steal content that wasn't theirs?

It makes me sad that some of the things that have been going on have driven people to tears, caused people to quit blogging altogether and made people feel the need to take some time away. Blogging is a hobby for most - it's supposed to be fun, a bit of light relief. It's a shame that there's a select crowd that are creating drama and pulling antics worthy of any primary school playground. We're talking about grown adults here, who should absolutely know better.

Of course, there's always going to be the odd anonymous hateful comment on a blog, as there always has been, but that's not what I'm talking about here. I'm talking about people targeting and attacking others on social media. 
It has got to stop!

I can't count the number of friends I've had to console over the last few weeks because of various incidents. Quite frankly, if this is how it's going to be in the blogging world, then I want out! 

Fellow bloggers, please. I implore you, let's just be kind to one another?

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13 comments:

  1. Well said!! I completely agree Rachael. I think it is disgraceful the way people have acted over the past few weeks and quite frankly it is unacceptable.

    There are so many decent people who blog and many of them I class as my friends, some I have yet to connect with, but they are out there. It is such a shame that a handful of spiteful, vile people are trying to ruin the amazing community I am proud to be a part of!

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  2. Couldn't have said it better myself! I've seen so much bitchiness and back stabbing - I hate the whole thing. I think for some it's almost fun for them to bring others down, whilst for another portion of the population it can sometimes be a jealousy/competition type thing. Either way, it doesn't sit comfortably with me and I don't like it!

    I think we should all just get back to being nice :)

    Penny | www.lilliesandlove.co.uk
    xx

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  3. I agree, if you can't say something nice don't say it at all!

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  4. Very well said. When I started blogging I'd heard all about the community and the support and I have had it in some areas But it's not what it was when I used to just Read blogs, I literally started blogging just as the niceness and caring seemed to decline.

    Very very sad, people need to chill and hopefully they do

    wow your instagram is distracting, did I just see a Doctor who bedding set?! You're just too cool!

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  5. Very well said indeed! Although I haven't been victim to this myself I have seen a lot going on over the last couple of weeks and it's not nice! :( I love the blogging community and hate seeing this happening!

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  6. Your last paragraph got me quite cold!
    I think social networking in general nowadays is just getting worse, less bearable... People think they are more superior if they have more friends, more followers etc, it's happened to friends I actually know, people I've known like almost all my life, every conversation with them is about followers, likes and how many comments they receive etc...that already just annoys me in itself, because there seems to be no more actual conversation!

    With abuse and stuff, I get it quite often, but from people I don't know, or more like they deliberately open up a new account with a fake name to try and hurt me... Racist comments, abusive comments about me now being a mother and how I am not taking care of my child properly etc... It's hurtful, but I just try my best to ignore it all.

    I feel your pain, and I understand exactly what you mean...
    I support you and I want you to continue blogging so I've just followed you on GFC, don't let haters get to you!

    JESS | WWW.JYUKIMI.COM

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  7. Sp sad. I havent seem this myself but perhaps we should all botcott the nasty bloggers to teach them a lesson!

    xXx

    Follow me too? Oh So Gawjess

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  8. Yup, some of the comments... simply aren't necessary, and makes you wonder about people in real life. I often want to scream, like I do to my children "If you've got nothing nice to say.. then say nothing at all"... I see lots of things that I don't agree with or rubs me the wrong way... I could comment my thoughts and feelings and grumble.. but I think why carry on the negativity iyswim? The mentality... "I'm real I have to say what I think, I'm an honest person" is ridiculous and in real life... you'd likely get smacked in the kisser... xx

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  9. Gosh, I've always tried to stay out of the drama, but it has gotten super bad lately! All of these 'Twitter wars' just seem to make people look foolish and unprofessional. I just stick with the nice bloggers and ignore the rest! xxx

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  10. I just feel like there's a lot of unnecessary drama in blogging nowadays. Or a blogger says something and then the whole community will blow up, you know? It just gets kind of disheartening.

    Sarah xo | PolkaDotLemon

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  11. Well said! I have (happily) not been aware of any of this recently but totally agree about some of th unnecessary drama.

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  12. Got to admit I totally agree the amount of bitchy comments about stuff like grammar and how people thing reviews aren't good enough. It makes me quite sad, no one is perfect. My blog isn't fantastic but it my blog and its for me. I enjoyed it but I do always feel I'm looking over my shoulder now :-(

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